Who Taught Us What Love Was Supposed to Look Like?
Love is often spoken about as though it has one universal shape: one person, one path, one definition of commitment. But in therapy, I often hear a far more complex question sitting quietly underneath relationship conflict, desire, jealousy and uncertainty:
“Is this what I truly want, or is this what I was taught love should look like?”
This blog explores the psychology of love, monogamy, attachment, relational conditioning and the deeply human struggle of separating inherited beliefs from authentic desire. Because perhaps the most confronting part of love is not learning how to love another person, but questioning whether the version of love we were given still belongs to us.
When the Life You Built No Longer Fits: Understanding Identity Crises at Any Age
Identity crises are often associated with adolescence or midlife, but in reality they can occur at any stage of life. Sometimes they emerge after years of repressing parts of ourselves. Other times they follow major life events that disrupt the roles we once relied on.
This article explores why identity crises happen, how they affect both LGBTQIA+ and heterosexual individuals, and the reflective questions that can help people reconnect with their authentic selves.
How to Rebuild Trust After Infidelity: A Practical Guide for Couples
Discovering an affair can feel like your reality has been rewritten. The mind searches for answers, the body stays on alert, and the relationship can quickly become organised around fear.
In this essay, I explore infidelity through a psychoanalytic lens, not to excuse it, but to understand it and outline what makes genuine repair possible when both partners are willing to face what’s underneath.